But I for one, think being divorced can actually be a stamp of awesomeness to we men willing to look past the stigma. Hell, even George Clooney couldn’t make his first marriage work. You know it’s better to be alone for the right reasons than with someone for the wrong.I think this experience actually means you’re a cut above your never-been-married friends. And are maybe more willing to wait for the right guy than jump into something just to have a body next to you.Dating a women who is going through a divorce can be a complicated endeavor, particularly if there are children involved or her soon-to-be ex-husband wants to make things difficult.A female friend of mine got divorced recently, and confessed to me how much she dreaded now having the “divorced” label hanging over her head as she re-entered the dating pool, like some modern day version of the scarlet letter. You took a swing at love, rather than just playing it safe on the sidelines.That she, too, had failed to make it work, and men would recoil from her in disgust, running for the nearest 20-something as soon as possible. That’s an attractive trait to men looking for a worthy partner. You placed a bet in the lottery of life, and while it didn’t work out, you can dust yourself up and try again.You know that both parties have to commit to supporting each other and making compromises on a daily basis. And that’s incredibly valuable for your future partners in life, because you’re clearly humble enough to accept criticism and question yourself. You probably now have a deep knowledge of what sexually satisfies you (and what doesn’t). Wrong” looks like, so you’ll better able to spot “Mr. You know what it’s like to watch love slip away, and you’re more able to keep it from happening again, to have the tough conversations that need to happen. You’ve suffered pain and loss, so you value joy and happiness more than those who’ve never lost it. Because there are those of us who find you all the more appealing for the battles you’ve won & lost.This, too, means you’ll have a more realistic and mature approach to your future relationships. You had the balls (irony intended) to walk away from something that wasn’t working. And isn’t afraid to face some public scorn in the process. Right.” Your bullshit detector is now iron-clad, and you realize you don’t always have to “stand by your man.” Because a lot of guys don’t deserve to be stood by. Hell, maybe you can help us prevent us from losing our way, too, if we drift. Because you look wonderful when you walk down the street alone, unafraid, cool and confident. You’ve experienced a wider range of emotion in life, and have a deeper appreciation for the highs & lows. Who find you much more interesting and inspiring for having a few kinks in your armor and some stories to tell.You stood up and said, “No, I won’t stay in something that’s a lie.” And that means you have standards. You’ll be less likely to fall for bullshit more able to identify a true heart. Or maybe you yourself realize you weren’t such a peach, yourself. When you sit at the bar with no one next to you, it doesn’t bother you a bit. Which makes us want to be next to you all the more. And maybe you’ll find one of us wanting to be by your side sooner than you think.
Previously, he worked as a newspaper reporter and editor, covering issues ranging from the environment and government to family matters and education.
He earned a bachelor's degree in journalism from the University of Oregon.
You don’t feel “incomplete” if you’re not in a relationship, and are maybe becoming a better person each day that you’re on your own. You now know (if you didn’t before) that love takes .
That it doesn’t just magically take care of itself, and float along in a some happy, pink cloud surrounded by unicorns and cotton candy. Maybe you were the one who walked away, and now know what “Mr.
But that willingness to accept fault is also incredibly attractive to the right guy.
James Roland is the editor of a monthly health publication that has approximately 75,000 subscribers in the United States and Canada.