But after they said goodbye and he messaged her saying he wanted to see her again so there’s obviously some kind of cultural dislocate there.She was on a date with a guy and it was going well so at some point she went to kiss him, and he just didn’t move his mouth.She even did it again just to double check and, nope…still nothing.Rebecca: I wasn’t so attracted to Japanese men but now after living here for three years I would say I definitely am. Christa: I’ve always been attracted to Japanese men, even when I was young, so I did some research before I came here and I saw that generally they are interested but they’re very shy about approaching women so you may need to approach them.So now when I go home I immediately look for the nearest Asian guy like ‘Hey! Christa: I was with a girlfriend in Shibuya and two men approached us on the street and we went out for drinks. *Laughter* Rebecca: Exactly, each time that’s happened to me the guy has been pretty hammered.Christa: I actually approached someone on the train recently and he was totally ok with it but yeah it was kind of up to me to make a move.Chiara: Um, let’s say in another field I had to make the first step.I had heard that Japanese guys tend to be intimidated by foreign women.
Finding love in the modern age is a tricky business for us ladies; there’s attractive profiles to create, emoticons to choose and the general deciphering of Tinder captions – ‘I feel how pizza tastes’… Throw in some culture shock, the language barrier and a completely different set of rules and you have something like dating in Japan.
In the name of research, Gaijin Pot got together three different women (UK, USA and Italy) to share their experiences of dating in Japan. Chiara: I thought that they didn’t find me attractive so I wasn’t really interested in Japanese guys, even though I was attracted to them.
I invited this guy to my house and I think it was pretty clear what I wanted to happen, and at a certain point I started to kiss him and he said ‘No. ’ Anthony: He’s like ‘えええ。。。you didn’t want to study Japanese…?
’ Rebecca: A similar thing happened with my friend.
Chiara: I heard too that Japanese men weren’t so interested in foreign women but my experience is kind of the opposite.
But you don’t know if they’re interested in you as a person or because of your foreignness.