Make sure you are emotionally available for a new relationship.If you are separated, don’t say you are divorced, even if there is no chance of reconciliation. If your divorce is almost final, share those details with the new person in your life without dragging them into the emotional roller coaster you might be on. Remember the good memories that you created together. We go into relationships with the best of intentions. But it can also be hurtful to the one who ends up being the transition person. I’m just suggesting that you understand their needs now may differ from their needs down the road. Sometimes, without anyone’s fault, we end up becoming a transition person. It can be very helpful to the one who is going through a divorce or mourning the loss of a loved one. Look Before You Leap Now, I am not here to discourage anyone from dating someone who may need a transition person, is going through a divorce, or suffering the loss of a loved one.
He said I was “the one.” He said he never felt this way about a woman before. Once you know you have met someone you would seriously like to be involved with, express your concerns if you think this scenario might apply to you. Is it possible to be the transition person and actually be lucky enough to meet someone quickly after a death or divorce of your loved one?
Understand that being the transition person is harder for the one without the prior loss.
I thought we were on the road to “happily ever after.” After several years, he just couldn’t commit to marriage. Some singles will not date a man or woman whose status is “separated.” While there isn’t a category of “separated, divorce pending” to select from, if you are not legally divorced, you are still married and may be unavailable. More often than not, a transition relationship will run its course. It is more common in cases of a difficult divorce than in an amicable divorce or the loss of a spouse.
The guy who broke my heart couldn’t imagine life without me. I know of many happily married couples that met shortly after one’s spouse had passed away.
The bottom line is, every relationship serves a purpose. If it’s possible to stay close and you had a deep friendship, don’t toss that person away completely.They were in your life for a reason, even if it didn’t go the distance.