Not so with narcissists and other emotional predators and con artists.
They’re like the stereotypical used car salesmen or saleswomen of relationships.
Meaning the relationship starts with a really intense, decadent dessert, and by the relationship’s end you’re dumpster diving for the measliest scraps of sustenance.
A relationship between two emotionally mature individuals with boundaries and healthy senses of self develops steadily over time and builds up to dessert after pesky little things like friendship, intimacy and trust have been established.
For example: Well hello there, Carl/Connie Codependent, do I have a deal for you today! Now, if an unscrupulous salesperson slithered up to you at the local used car lot and laid it on nice and thick like that, wouldn’t you reflexively raise an eyebrow to their patter?
At some point, perhaps you questioned their sincerity and insta-adoration?Maybe you even had doubts about them such as, “Is this person psycho or is it love at first sight?