Even those of us who would never use online dating sites will still often Facebook-stalk someone before a date.
We take the Meyers-Briggs personality test and various strengths-finder quizzes in order to determine whether we’ve picked the right job.
They have to stop thinking in individual terms and start feeling in rapport terms.
Brooks calls this “the enchantment leap”—when “something dry and utilitarian erupts into something passionate, inescapable and devotional.” The algorithmic relies on the measurable, and thus most often depends on the physical, as Brooks points out.
Through apps like OKCupid and Tinder, we’ve learned to emphasize the temporary and the sensually gratifying in our pursuit of love.
We use Yelp to check every restaurant, pick movies via Rotten Tomatoes, use wine apps to purchase the perfect bottle.Because we are so anxious to control outcomes, we are unable to take any real risks.