If you’re a single 20-something in London, you’re probably on Tinder.
If you’re not a single 20-something in London, you’ve probably suffered through at least one demonstration of Tinder from your excitable single 20-something friends, desperate to show you what it’s all about.
I got my male friend to send the same question to 30 of his (female) matches and the responses were telling.
Of the nine who replied, only one said she was open to a hook-up.
On the whole, members of the gay community are far more likely to engage in casual relationships than members of the straight community.
If you want an example of how men would like to behave in relationships, look for what they do when women aren’t involved.
The most common response went along the lines of: ‘Maybe, but I’m not on here for that’. Its tagline ‘Discover those around you’ is much more oblique than Grindr’s mission statement ‘Find gay, bi and curious guys near you’, which seems to set out the state of play in quite clear terms.
But perhaps both apps and their taglines have adapted to their client-base.
And whilst some girls will be on Tinder to find a hook-up, most aren’t. Perhaps you can return back to the site's homepage and see if you can find what you are looking for.Tinder really does seem to be everywhere at the moment.But hailed as the ‘straight Grindr’, the app has caused some confusion amongst its users, who can’t seem to decide whether it’s intended to find them a one-night stand or a long-term love. ’ and the no-doubt sarcastic: ‘No, I’m looking for a wife.’ Although there was the odd more gentlemanly response (‘I don’t know, I’m just finding my feet on here…’) it soon became clear that the vast proportion of the men I asked were on Tinder to find that casual set-up that so often eludes them on traditional dating websites – and indeed in non-virtual dating. I have one male friend in search of a serious girlfriend who returned to Guardian Soulmates after a quick flirtation on Tinder because he felt the girls on there weren’t serious enough about having a relationship.
I imagine it won’t be long before Tinder users realise that Grindr works in the way it does because it’s dominated by men and that with women on board, Tinder will become like every other dating platform, fraught with tension, misunderstanding and frustration between the sexes.Enjoy it while it lasts, folks: Tinder’s bubble may well burst very quickly indeed.